I Talked To Marissa Nadler About Depression, Nihilism, and Cats


Marissa Nadler is a strange case. She’s a primarily acoustic artist who has collaborated with Xasthur. Her music, reminiscent of titans like Townes Van Zandt and Jeff Buckley, is wonderfully ethereal and dreamy. It points to a strange world that few of us ever get to truly journey in. Her new record Strangers is one of the best of 2016 with huge replay value. She’s currently on tour with both the amazing Wrekmeister Harmonies and the triumphant Muscle & Marrow, Thursday will feature a keynote performance at New York City’s legendary Bowery Ballroom.

So how are you?

I’m running around like crazy right now! I’m good. I’m in the middle of a pretty intense tour all around the United States. There hasn’t been a lot of down time but I’m good. That’s a good problem to have. I’m really enjoying touring right now with the band. It’s kind of fun actually!

You’ve had a lot of trouble with touring in the past right?

Yes. It’s the combination of stage fright, insecurity, inferiority complexes, and a fear of failure in front of a large group of people but now I’m more seasoned and professional. I’m realizing ways to make it easier for myself and that includes not touring by myself because that was I think the biggest issue, how lonely it was and how hard it is to fill a set with just one person and the amount of pressure that can create.

So to clarify, Wrekmeister Harmonies is your backing band right?

They were planning to be and we tried it out in Europe but it didn’t totally work out. I’ve actually hired the bassist from the band Earth and I have Milky Burgess playing electric guitars and doing harmonies. He actually plays on the new record. Some of those songs are pretty complicated and I was looking for something specific. Members of Muscle & Marrow are filling out the live band and I love that band so much.

One of the things that really struck me as I was digging through the articles on you is that you seem to be really happy right now…

(Nervous laughter) I think I do a good job of it. I’m okay. That’s a tricky word. Who is ever really happy? I’m alright. I’m better than I have been. I have some major ups and downs like everyone else. I think I am doing okay because I am trying to live life day by day as opposed to thinking about the future. I think that living in the moment has helped my psychological issues. I’m a real worrywart and the more I can stop my brain from freaking out the better.

I totally sympathize, I’ve had to come to a similar realization in recent months…

I’m never going to be like Pharrell Williams!

Do you think he’s actually happy?

I think that’s an ironic song! (Laughter)

To circle back… you said ‘Is anyone truly happy?’ and that was just too real for me… DO you think that being sad is an inherent part of the human experience?

Yes I do. Even when you watch babies learning how to emote it’s pretty fascinating. Humans are born with complexity. Animals also! There is so much middle ground in between happy and sad though, I would never go so far as to simplify those emotions…

Are you a nihilist?

Let me think about that one! I don’t know. I think I’m more of a realist, which is weird for someone who writes such mystical songs. I’m a little bit of a nihilist I think, but I’m not totally negative all the time.

There’s a very human sadness to your music that draws a lot of people to it…

I think that’s because I try to be as unpretentious as possible. I believe that one of the greatest unifiers of humanity is music. I don’t want to play music that is pretentious that no one can relate to. I want to be sincere. I can’t stand heavily ironic music that talks down to audiences. I’ve had a lot of people tell me that my music helped them through a hard time and that’s enough for me.

That must be really empowering…

Sometimes it makes me feel better, especially if I’m playing a smaller show. If someone says something like that it’s like “Okay, there is some meaning to my life I suppose!”

Do you have difficulty finding meaning outside of music?

A lot of people have day jobs that don’t let you think about everything because you are so fucking tired. Because I go on these tours and then go home and there’s nothing I have a lot of time, too much time even, to think about why I’m here. That’s why I picked up stop motion animation!

How is that going?

My last two music videos I did myself with stop and slide motion animation. I have a fine art background so it’s kind of a natural thing to do, but man is it fun. I’ve been having a whole creative breakthrough.

I know that you had a hard time with fine art for a while because you were being graded on it…

It took some of the joy out of it when everything you do is critiqued.

Don’t you run into the same problem being a professional musician?

Sometimes! I guess I’ve reached a point where I stopped taking record reviews to heart. I’m doing it for so many different reasons other than to get a good grade or be famous. Those are the least of those goals. I never thought I would be a pop star. The fact that I’m successful is just a cool plus. I don’t know what I would do with my life if I wasn’t making music or art. I do both and it’s a big part of my life and without it I don’t think I would have much identity…

So I saw a quote from you saying that your art is best when you are at your most manic. Do you think that now that you are less manic your art will fundamentally shift?

I think that I may have said that a long time ago. I really don’t believe that anymore. I wrote Strangers in a fine mindset and July as well and I think they are my two best records. That quote is from an older version of myself. I don’t believe that you have to be self destructive to make good art. I used to believe that firmly and I feel like my life used to reflect that. I don’t want to feed into the “I went to the woods and mountains and isolated myself.” There are people who wrote music as a day job and wrote some of the best songs ever. You don’t have to be Townes Van Zandt or Jeff Buckley.

But at the same time you have collaborated with Xasthur who is the definition of crazy tortured artist…

But look at the timeline. There was a distinct departure in my mindset and personality from 2009 when I was just a mess. When I collaborated with Xasthur I was drinking a lot. After 2009 I signed to two great labels and got a job as a special needs art teacher. Scott Connor… I really like him. He’s really legit. He’s not a fucking hipster. A lot of people put on the cape and claim to be black metal, but one thing I will say about Scott is that he’s the real deal – a dark motherfucker! That was fun. He was chain smoking watching me sing and letting me do whatever I wanted. He was pretty rad.

That ties into something else I wanted to ask about. Obviously you are not a metal musician, but you have had ties to metal for years. What has your relationship been like with metal music?

I started out really loving the band Earth because I was on the same booking agency as them in ’05. I always liked dark heavy music. I’m not sure about the world of metal because there are so many genres I’m not crazy about. I really like drone-y black metal and bands like Locrian, Earth, Sunn 0))). I wouldn’t say across the board I’m a metalhead but I would say that people who like metal, especially black metal, like my music because the subject matter is fairly bleak and dark and obviously shares some influences even if it presents itself differently.

Before the interview started you said you loved cats. Do you want to talk about cats?

I love cats so much. I’m home for two days since I live in Boston. The tour is in the Northeast right now and I’ve gotten to see my cat Twila, she’s a very tortoise shell, she’s very vocal and adorable. Cats are my spirit animal, they are independent and keep to themselves. What do you like about cats?

With my kitten, who is just a baby, it’s really empowering to have something that so clearly loves you and that is just so fucking stupid…

I don’t think cats are stupid! (Laughter)

Well mine is six weeks old!

Give him some time – they are smart animals!

I found having a cat has really helped me with depression because it has shown me that something is reliant on me. Do you find the same with your cat?

I know exactly what you mean. Having somebody else rely on you is a nice feeling. It’s easier for me to take care of other people instead of myself. I’m a nurturer. I put myself last. I’m trying to work on that a little. That’s not a self sustaining MO!

Related to that – I definitely had a point where I started to realize I was putting myself last – did you have a point like that ever?

Yeah. I think I’m still realizing that and learning how to say no. It’s weird. My inbox was like a ghost town forever but as soon as you have a little bit of press and people give a shit about your music there is a bombardment of solicitations. I always want to be nice to everybody, but I’m trying to learn how to look out for myself and say yes or no based on what I want, not what I want to do to make other people happy and like me. I have to unlearn that weird trait of wanting everybody to like me. Not everybody is going to like what you do. Who gives a shit? It took me a long time to learn that.

I feel like putting yourself in a medium where you are constantly judged would make that hard to deal with…

It’s just par for the course I guess! I have accepted it. I think as a female musician there is really an added pressure to fill a void. If you’re demanding you’re a diva and bossy. I know exactly what I want and I can’t afford a sound guy because I brought a band instead. One out of three nights it’s like “Lady, I know what I’m doing.” It’s unbelievable shit, they assume it’s my first rodeo. I’ve come to accept that I don’t care if I’m making the best impression because it’s a job after all!

What do you love so much about music?

That’s a hard question to answer. I love how unifying it is, how it brings people together and expresses things you can’t express with words. It congeals memories. It soothes you and matches your mood. It can do so many things. I feel the same way about art. Without those things life wouldn’t be worth living.

Keep up with Marissa Nadler on Facebook and catch her on tour at a venue near you.

July 20 – Providence, RI – Aurora
July 21 – New York, NY – Bowery Ballroom
July 22 – Philadelphia, PA – Johnny Brenda’s
July 24 – Washington, DC – DC9
July 25 – Raleigh, NC – Cat’s Cradle Back Room
July 26 – Atlanta, GA – The Earl
July 27 – New Orleans, LA – Gasa Gasa
July 29 – Austin, TX – The Sidewinder
July 30 – Denton, TX – Rubber Gloves
August 01 – Phoenix, AZ – Valley Bar

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  • I love her music. Thank you for doing this.

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  • Janitor Jim Duggan

    Very good interview. Also for all the fans of hardcore here Hatebreed announced a fall tour with Devildriver and Devil You Know.

  • Dubbbz

    I queued up Strangers when I saw this interview in the schedule. Great interview, and the music is pretty dreamy to boot. I also obviously love Muscle & Marrow, so this piece is A+++

  • She sounds very down to Earth. Awesome interview.


    • Matt Bacon

      I desperately hope you are actually George Lynch

  • Abradolf Lincler

    aw man, all the way to Raleigh. i dont think i can do it. shes also very pretty

  • CyberneticOrganism

    Nice interview, bacon man! I definitely share the love for Earth, they’re excellent.

    • Howard Dean

      The first time I heard the song “Ouroboros is Broken” (the Extra-Capsular Extraction EP version) I nearly shat myself. The way that song just seems to spin out and come apart at the seams as it continues droning. That turned me on to Earth.

  • Howard Dean

    “Are you a nihilist?”

  • tertius_decimus

    Thanks for the interview!

  • Elegant Gazing Globe

    our kitten(who is only 5 months old and already bigger than most full grown cats) is a bloodthirsty beast who can’t resist the urge to shred bare skin. Can’t walk past him in shorts or flip flops without him latching on. He inspires rage. We’re getting his ballz cut the fukk off next week.

  • Eliza

    I love her singing voice, and her songs have a melancholic tone that I’m really feeling. Also, I like that she does stop motion animation, as someone who tried it once, I know it’s really hard.

    • tertius_decimus

      May you, please, share couple of your works?

      • Eliza

        It’s only one poorly done video.

        • tertius_decimus

          Emersion of medusa.

          • Eliza

            I wish I gave the video that title. XD

          • tertius_decimus

            This is by the way a nice name to some scary drone black album. With massive spread of modern technologies it’s possible to anyone to create and consume animated cover arts.

          • Eliza

            I feel like listening to some black drone music now.

          • tertius_decimus

            With your “Project 1” stop motion seems like a legit audiovisual trip.

          • Eliza

            I’d have to replay a couple hundred times, but that wouldn’t be a huge problem.

          • tertius_decimus

            Here’s where Coub platform can help. Drone is the same repeated sound pattern anyway, so. 😀

          • Eliza

            That’s true.

          • Eliza

            Thanks. It’s not like I would’ve chosen to listen to anything else but Sunn O))), anyway.

          • Haha, good point. This is the only album besides Black One that I like of theirs.

          • Eliza

            I like this one and ØØVoid.

          • To be fair, I haven’t really tried a lot of other Sunn albums. I just went with their darker ones.

          • Eliza

            Their music is pretty much an acquired taste, so it’s no problem if you don’t like anything else by them.

          • CyberneticOrganism

            A Blue Slime Approaches!

            – by Eliza

  • Fun interview! Cats >>>>>>>>>>

    my cat did the exact same thing for me Bacon. <3

    This music is pretty nice, I'll give her last couple albums a spin. So far it reminds me a lot of Julia Holter's latest, although Julia is less consistent sound wise and more dreamscape-y? This is based on two Nadler songs, so what do I know

    • Dagon


  • Dagon

    The line about congealing memories is definitely true. I have albuns I can’t go back to unless I’m in the mood for some heavy feels.

    • tertius_decimus

      It can go as far, that with some memories attached to the music you were listening to, the brain will refuse to accept an another listen in order to protect. This is the case in which it kinda sucks to be so sensitive.

      • Dagon

        I don’t see myself as a very sensitive person but I have some shit I avoided for years for that reason. Paradoxically, some songs that are very emotional for me still find me going back to then.

        I played this song the day I found out about my grandma’s cancer diagnosis and I don’t mind listening to it now. It’s actually a song/album/band I’ve found some sort of support in.


        • tertius_decimus

          Believe or not, I’m feeling what you felt then. High empathy at work here.

    • Waynecro

      Seriously, man. When I play certain albums these days, I have to kick my own ass for feeling things. I played a Daylight Dies record the other day and had to throw myself down the stairs to justify an accidental single tear.

      • Every time I hear Thundersteel I have to stop whatever I’m doing and cry a single tear

        • Waynecro

          Strong men also cry.

          • Dagon

            Tears made out of baby oil

          • Waynecro

            My tears are straight piss because I’m awful.

          • tertius_decimus

            Wayne, please, self-deprecation doesn’t help you any. While it’s easy to understand why you talk this: people’s undecent actions and intentions make you feel this way, but that doesn’t mean this is, actually, true. Mindless crimes are the worst ones, because those, who cause them, don’t recognize that their actions are harmful and this is their fault, not yours. Don’t let yourself think this is the case. You’re respectable person.

          • Waynecro

            Thanks for the kind words, man. You’re a really good dude. Let me try this again: My tears are straight piss because I’m tougher than a goddamn shark (some sharks urinate out of their skin).

        • tertius_decimus

          “The Origin of Primal Expression” by Obscura did that to me yesterday 5 minutes before leaving home for doing the job. Had a heavy talk with my friend before, so this song glued to the memory tightly. It’ll remind for this moment for years to come.

          By the way, one of the lonliest compositions alongside with Morbid Angel’s “Desolate Ways”.

          • You want lonely sounding music? The majority of this album is pretty lonely, but surrounded by a reassuring warmth that surges in the early/middle songs


          • tertius_decimus

            Country singer Bill Callahan released an album “Dream River” with intention to make the music for listening before sleeping. Imagine long hard day at work and you finally made your way back home. What will be the tune for the evening? Some crazy grindcore? Sometimes you just want lay back and rest. Mellow character of the music in this album does just that: it helps to relax. This is what I’m feeling listening to this Patrick Watson’s tune.

          • Hey, I bought that album. It’s real good.

          • tertius_decimus

            “A beer. Thank you.” puts a smile on my face. 😀

          • My favorite track on it!

          • RJA

            Bill Callahan is the man. Fact.

  • I totally forgot that she worked with Xasthur.


    • Dagon

      I wish I could flip one of these at some people at work who excel at making the worst small talk possible.

      Just physically throw a print at them

  • Pentagram Sam

    Always dig the Bacon Mr Matt’s interviews. Even if I don’t know the group, I’ll read em. Same with the think pieces on MI

    • Matt Bacon

      DAWWW THANK YOU!!!!!

      That actually means a lot to me!

  • Waynecro

    Sweet interview, man. Thanks! And thanks for bringing this artist to my attention. Something about “Katie I Know” really appeals to me, so I had to buy Strangers.

  • Dave Vincent’s Perm

    The thing about not looking down at your audience is so fucking true.

  • I haven’t checked Muscle & Marrow. But the Dubs recommendation and this killer interview is making me think that I need to listen them, right now!

    Thanks, Don Tocino. Great job in this work, she delivered some great answers, liked her humble approach.

  • God ov War


  • Heliocrat

    Very nice interview, never heard her music. It’s pretty great!

  • D. Lee

    Strangers is fantastic, along with Muscle & Marrow. Was hoping for the tour to swing through my area

  • Heliocrat

    That katie I know is fucking fantastic.

  • PostBlackenedWhaleGaze

    Really good interview, enjoyed reading it. If I were still in NOLA I would be definitely going to the upcoming show.